Category Archives: Social Media

Side Hustles: More about views and reach then popular posts and page likes

Side hustles aren’t just for Millennials, in spite of the great coverage from the media lately. My side hustle started by accident. While trying to find my first job outside of Work Services, making cards was a great way to relax. Everything was done by hand until my learning how to scan them on computer made it a lot easier. My subscription to Card Maker Magazine served me well. Even though my family advised me not to start another facebook webpage, a few of my friends have paid for cards.

After 20+ years in the military, my father loved photography so much that he invested in professional camera equipment and a subscription to Photography Magazine but he never pursued it as a side hustle. My brother still has time to turn his computer hobby into a side hustle. Thanks to him, my knowledge of computers and the internet took off. His magazine of choice is PCWorld.

Both of the people that helped me set up Yoboogle, had side hustles. One was a body builder. The other sold a brand while he was working for the former company sponsor. That being said, this writer almost got terminated for taking on side jobs to earn extra money. It shouldn’t interfere with the regular job Now it’s important because of the large credit card debt.

Not only was a side hustle a great way to earn money in addition to earning from a regular job, it gave one a way to release the creative juices they had pent up inside sometime with little or no investment. There might be mounting credit card debt or unpaid student loans. In my case, it’s the former. The company that set up Yoboogle, is all but inert in that the only way to contact them is through an email address because the online number won’t take incoming calls. Efforts to sell this website in 2015 fell through, leaving me with the bills early last year. Right now, my job finding a brand that sells is paramount. One way to do this is through affiliate marketing. As long as its free, this blogger would use it. With no marketing budget, it got difficult to boost posts or get viewers, readers or buyers for my products.

My side hustle was My Writing Site, mainly because Yoboogle had data problems and was often unreachable. Writing about trending web topics in any genre remained important in spite of that factor. Live video of trending topics or a trending social media post was always helpful. The quicker breaking news was posted with live video, the better the hits. Often times, this blogger didn’t have to comment because the amount of hits to the post spoke volumes, especially the turmoil surrounding the trouble in Zimbabwe concerning the impeachment of Mugbe and the installation of Managagwa.  

Side hustles are not about likes it’s about views and reach. My readership has tripled in the last few days due to the live videos and posts added.

 

 

 

Sources

Why Side Hustles Are Made for Millennials Ashley Macey Updated Oct 23, 2017

SIDE HUSTLE NATION: MILLENNIALS ARE MAKING MAJOR MONEY WITH SIDE GIGS

MILLENNIAL MONEY JULY 12, 2017

A List of Side Hustles Millennials are Obsessed With (and Why)

 

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Moriah Modisette: Banning cell use while driving is needed

Well, here’s a good reason for banning  cell phones  while driving is needed. It appears, in a January 5 article, that an SUV crashed into the back of another car eat full speed, which killed a five year old girl. The driver that rammed into the one in front, used Facetime while they drove.

According to a BBC article, the accident happened on a Texas road on Christmas Eve 2014. Five-year-old Moriah Modisette subsequently died. The lawsuit states that the parents – James and Bethany Modisette – were seeking damages for “the defendant’s wrongful failure to install and implement the safer, alternative design for which it sought a patent in December 2008”

The patent, which was issued by the US patent office in April 2014 aimed to lock out users while they were driving. In spite of repeated requests, there has been no statement made by Apple iPhone makers.

The driver involved in the crash – Garrett Wilhelm – drove his SUV into the back of the Modisette family’s vehicle while travelling at high speeds. Also in the BBC article, lawsuit documents said that he told police he was using FaceTime at the time of the crash and that the application was still active when police found his phone at the scene. He is facing trial on manslaughter charges in February.

There is a reason why this lawsuit isn’t frivolous. In 2008, iPhones supposedly had a feature that kept the phone from being used when the user got behind the wheel. In the United States, 46 states, including: Washington, D.C., Puerto Rico, Guam and the U.S. Virgin Islands ban text messaging for all drivers. All but 5 have primary enforcement. Of the 4 states without an all driver texting ban: 2 prohibit text messaging by novice drivers. Approximately 20 or more states and three U.S. Territories banned the use of hand held devices while driving

Wichita Falls did not allow the use of cell phones in school zones. Texas is one of the states resisting a stated wide prohibition of cell use while driving.

Sources:

Apple Being Sued Over FaceTime Car Crash Tragedy Ian Morris January 3, 2017

Apple sued over fatal ‘FaceTime crash’ January 3, 2017

I love to write about trending topics and real life experiences. I love to read and write Science Fiction and Fantasy stories dealing with parallel worlds.
WhatsApp 'Backdoor '

WhatsApp messages: Safety of encryption still under question

WhatsApp message encryption  is still under question.  The fact that messages written between users of this popular service enjoyed it because of its privacy, messages can still be read by prying eyes.

Remember the uproar over the privacy issue in the San Bernadino shooting? IPhones had additional safety features built into the phone to avoid someone seeing incriminating evidence. Yet, the FBI found its way around the First Amendment and everyone’s right to privacy, including the dead terrorists. This blogger still has her phone coded around my family just in case someone gets too nosey.

Once again, the media might be the catalyst for giving people the wrong idea concerning the safety of chatting on WhatsApp. Being able to read messages through a back door led users to Most other chat services that aren’t encrypted or as safe. Sometimes it makes this blogger wonder why the media allowed for such stupid scare tactics to occur?

My biggest concern is whether my gmail and yahoo email accounts were safe. Because the app had been compromised at yahoo for the second time my password is coded, preventing a breach. In times of war, nothing is absolute, not even the right to privacy.  In the case of the San Bernadino shooting, the FBI showed just cause in retrieving the data in the iPhone as evidence of a terrorist attack and maintained the proper warrant.

The concern over WhatsApp encrypted messages has merit. This didn’t sound so dumb to a lot of people. According to Chris Mills January 13 bog post, End-to-end encryption relies on both users having two parts of a secure key, used to encrypt and then decrypt the message. But to make sure that messages are always sent, even when the recipient is offline, Whatsapp appears to have compromised that system. According to The Guardian, “WhatsApp has the ability to force the generation of new encryption keys for offline users, unbeknown to the sender and recipient of the messages, and to make the sender re-encrypt messages with new keys and send them again for any messages that have not been marked as delivered.”

Here’s how the WhatsApp feature worked, according to Chris Smith’s January 17 blog post :

  • When a message is sent but not delivered to the recipient (you see a single tick on your sent message), WhatsApp servers will hold onto the message until it can be delivered, regardless of what happens to the receiving account.
  •  If a person — let’s call him Jay — loses a smartphone, buys a new one, or changes SIMs, but wants to keep using the same WhatsApp account, the application will warn all Jay’s contacts that their friend has changed devices, and an in-person security check might be required to verify his identity.

Now, here’s where the backdoor ‘feature’ steps in. The messages sent by all of Jay’s friends via WhatsApp will still arrive — that’s when his friends will see two ticks under their sent messages, marking the fact that the messages have been sent.

*Boelter explains that all the government has to do to spy on a specific friend of Jay’s — let’s call him Silent Bob — is to mimic  Jay’s phone using sophisticated equipment or by accessing WhatsApp’s servers. The government would then prevent the server from sending confirmation ticks to Silent Bob that his messages have been sent to Jay.

Jay, meanwhile, will not receive those messages, as they’re sent to the government’s devices. But Jay might soon realize that something is wrong with his WhatsApp app.

The gist is that Silent Bob will continue to send out messages to his friend, thinking that Jay has not seen the messages. The government would then collect that data.

In Tobias Boelter’s January 17 blog post, he stated that Facebook’s failure to acknowledge this flaw is a major concern because it allowed hackers to use this vulnerability. The collection of data  would’ve been a violation of users First Amendment right to privacy and free speech. Facebook and WhatsApp would have to keep all messages sent to an account that’s activated on a new device and prompt the senders to send them again if they want to do it. Even if it’s a hassle for the user, who sent those messages. In this case, Silent Bob’s messages that are in transit would need confirmation to be sent again to Jay.

Even though this made encrypted messages safe, it isn’t totally safe from hackers or unethical government people. Tobias Boelter showed this.

 

Sources:

Feelings Tobias Boelter’s Blog, January 17, 2017

WhatsApp vulnerability: Encryption backdoor or convenience feature? Chris Smith January 17, 2017

Whatsapp bug allows viewing of encrypted messages Chris Mills January 13, 2017

I love to write about trending topics and real life experiences. I love to read and write Science Fiction and Fantasy stories dealing with parallel worlds.

Targeted ads using WhatsApp cell numbers breaches Facebook’s promise

Facebook and WhatsApp  users are fuming over the parent company using data collected from phone numbers to target ads. The backlash is far-reaching. Some WhatsApp users have left the chat service over this announcement. Frankly, this blogger didn’t blame them. Unfortunately, this blogger wants updates through her phone on news related items, so Facebook had my cell number. WhatsApp requires users to give their cell number to validate the account. I only chat with one person, even though other friends use that chat service.

I don’t mind the Facebook targeting their ads to me as long as they are beneficial. It’s to their credit they have been so lately. However, this blogger understood users outcry of both system’s determination to make a profit from their targeted ads. This is a breach in their promise not to use collected data from WhatsApp. The social media giant bought the app two years ago. Back then, a $5 price hike concerned its users.

Facebook must be hard up for members to breach its agreement with its users. While it is a great place to gather trending news topics, it wasn’t the only choice. There was a time when I’d get three or four alerts on the same trending news story from different outlets. It is difficult deciding which one to use. The link easiest to use won. That ranked People near the bottom because their stories were removed a lot.

While Facebook remained quiet about this latest announcement, users of these services can stop it. With the encryption added, no one outside of the sender or receiver can read messages. They didn’t share anyone’s posts from WhatsApp on Facebook or send a list of cell numbers to advertisers. On the flip side, sharing one’s number got targeted ads, better friend requests and fight spam. I’ve noticed that unverified accounts on Facebook are removed. Before accepting the TOS agreement on WhatsApp, remove the check mark from the box that reads ‘share my account with Facebook’, then put a check mark in the agree to the TOS box. If it was already checked, go to the account section and remove the check mark from ‘share account info’. This blogger plans to check her account on WhatsApp and Facebook.

I love to write about trending topics and real life experiences. I love to read and write Science Fiction and Fantasy stories dealing with parallel worlds.

Trump ignores backlash over Khizr Khan speeches

As usual, GOP presidential candidate Donald Trump is in the news again. This time, for his comments against the parents of fallen Muslim U.S. Army Captain Humayun Khan. When will Trump listen? Everyone else on both sides of the issue think Donald Trump went too far with his attacks against this fallen hero. Khizr Khan was right the first time, “You have sacrificed nothing!”

Trump foot in mouth

One of the many reasons why this blogger does ot like Donald Trump is because of his fear campaign against Muslims and other minority groups especially women. I don’t care for the attitude about the military, especially veterans. My father, brother, and other family members served in the Armed Forces, which I am thankful for. Donald Trump is unfit for military service and shouldn’t be leading our country. What really got my back up was his tweet, “Hillary voted for the Iraq war, not me!” And yet he didn’t want to become a part of the debt in Puerto Rico. He is already part of a problem much bigger than that.

When he spoke against the family of Khizr Khan,particularly his wife, it started a domino effect in the media. A lot of my friends, usually Republicans, had to agree that Trump had ‘hoof in mouth’ disease. His toes went in first every time his mouth opened in front of a camera and a microphone. He does it to himself. The problem is he takes the entire Republican party with him. Mitt Romney did the same thing in 2012.

If this is how he handles things the echo “God help us” won’t be the only thing uttered from Capitol Hill. I mean, the live Town Hall Meeting video was all about him. In reading some of the comments, it made me wonder why the Dump Trump campaign failed. No one in their right mind would elect this ‘candidate for change’ His distaste for Muslims had me worried. He didn’t seem to hear anything except the sound of his own voice. He is arrogant. All his wrong doing gets swept under the rug while Hillary Clinton gets bashed for her mistakes—at least she recognizes there are problems. It will take more than one to fix it all.

What will it take to reprimand Donald Trump for his public behavior? He did have a dark soul. As for the uproar over his latest speech, Khizr Khan would get a handshake and a hug from me too.

Sources:

Father Of Muslim American War Hero To Trump: ‘You Have Sacrificed Nothing’ You have to see this video

Donald Trump to Father of Fallen Soldier: ‘I’ve  Made a Lot of Sacrifices’

Khizr Khan, Father Of Slain War Hero, Calls Donald Trump A ‘Black Soul’

#VetsVsHate Rally Outside Trump Tower

Yahoo News WATCH LIVE: Donald J. Trump conducts a Town Hall in Columbus, OH

Muslim women adjust the volume: #CanYouHearUsNow, Trump?

#CanYouHearUsNow: Hashtag Surfaces in Response to Donald Trump’s Comments About Ghazala Khan The Council on American-Islamic Relations asked women to use the hashtag after Trump suggested that Ghazala Khan, mother of a slain Muslim-American soldier, wasn’t “allowed” to speak at the DNC

Brown Berets: 2 Female Members Get Photographed Standing With Nation of Islam Members at Protest Published on July 11, the photo that circulated on social media shows two Latina Brown Berets standing next to Black Nation Of Islam members during a recent Black Lives Matter protest in Los Angeles.

I love to write about trending topics and real life experiences. I love to read and write Science Fiction and Fantasy stories dealing with parallel worlds.

Is Melania Trump RNC’s next ‘Achilles heel’?

Melania Trump, wife of the RNC presidential nominee, gave a speech last night that would’ve hit a home run, if it weren’t plagiarized by Michelle Obama’s 2008 speech, given at the DNC. Media made its own reality,  What is to be done about this violation of copyright law? Right now, it appeared that no action is on the docket to correct this major infraction in the Trump campaign.

Due to all the media backlash about Melania Trump speech, she is slated to become the RNC”s ‘Achilles Heel‘, a flaw or defect. Donald’s major malfunction is his mouth. Too bad no ambrosia was rubbed there when he speaks. According to one myth, that supposedly protected Achilles from harm when his mother, Thetis,  put him in the flames. The only flames fanned here are the ones the media capitalizes on. They are justified because the media knows how to throw stones. Remember Bill Cosby and Paula Deen?

Her husband had enough trouble with his own shortcoming. He might say what he thought and mean it, but Donald Trump rubbed people the wrong way. He says he loves women, but not Megyn Kelly. Yesterday, one article reported she  Donald Trump dominate her during an interview.   This blogger doesn’t see her as that kind of person, not after all his complaints about the previous debates this year.  His campaign manager grabs at straws trying to blame Hillary Clinton for his wife’s speech blunder. Michelle Obama has nothing to do with it either, according to Joy-Ann Reid, who let go of the thought.

Will anyone come forward claiming responsibility? Probably not, but someone else could research her speeches before she reads them for the RNC. This blogger recommends using CopyScape when checking for plagiarism. This stunt reminds me of the stupidity in my Western Civilization Class in College. At least five people turned in black market or plagiarized term  papers my first semester. A few didn’t remove the previous owner’s name before turning in the paper.

Apparently, Queen didn’t authorize the use of the song, “We are the Champions” as his entrance piece for his “Make America Great Again” campaign. So far, things didn’t look so great from here.  This is disgraceful as plagiarizing a speech. This blogger forecasts Melania Trump is the next weakest link if she didn’t get someone looking up her speeches before she speaks in front of people. Her Achilles heel might topple Donald’s presidential chances without Dump Trump.

I love to write about trending topics and real life experiences. I love to read and write Science Fiction and Fantasy stories dealing with parallel worlds.

Race: People divided over hostility causes

Tonight, there is a townhall meeting on race where the president is due to speak on it. Let’s hope it faired better than the aftermath from the Ferguson riot or Obama’s speech durig the Dallas Memorial. Reaction on social media is shaky.

Race: Still stewing over the past

The sad fact is that 69% of people in America still thought that race relations are worse since the Rodney King incident more than 20 years ago. And they thought guns were the issue? Lets get real here, people. The plan needs to change. Put the spoken words into action. Dont just debate over it. How did they heal the open wounds that existed in the African America communities affected by the recent tragedies? This blogger is puzzled herself. Race can’t be solved in 24 hours or over the course of an hour speech.

Race: The biggest divide

The good news is that Americas, both black and white, are dissatisfied with race relations, the difference is only 1%. The bad news showed when the answers came back on the use of force. While 75 percent of African Americans believed they were more apt to have deadly force used against them, only 36 percent of whites believed this of their race. The shocking thing about this is, 56 percent of whites didn’t think this made a difference. Black people who believed that is 18 percent. In spite o all the shootings that occurred recently, the division of race was made further. For whites, the poll’s margin of error is 3%, for blacks it is 9 percent. The poll as with 1,600 Americans from Friday, July 8, to Tuesday, July 12 — after last week’s controversial police-involved shootings of black men in Louisiana and Minnesota and the deadly shootings of officers in Dallas that targeted white cops.

Race: NBER study

NBER further complicated things for me. The strange thing is, their study found ‘no racial motive‘ for all those police shootings’ among the ‘raw data’ they collected. Dallas just happened to be one of the cities where raw data are used for their study. Like the article above, there are differences when police used deadly force among blacks and whites. The study also reported that there were more that 10,000 arrests a year in Houston. Then why the use of guns and the need for the open carry law?

Race: People made bad choices

If they just followed the advice of the officer ad didn’t try to resist, on one got hurt.Some made bad choices, like the Fletcher murder A few weeks ago, while watching the TV show ,”Cops” it surprised me how stupid people thought police are. The moment an officer came to the widow, they could:

  1. Smell cigarette, drug, or alcohol odors.
  2. Can find out if any knives or guns were in the car or on the driver
  3. Run the license and find outstanding warrants
  4. Were allowed the use of deadly force if one got resistant

Thankfully, it didn’t come to the last point. No one died in any of the episodes watched by me two weeks ago. To me, the NBERS study was a little off. Statistics are made to be manipulated. Here’s hoping the townhall meeting made progresss on race relations in America. Check the local listings in your area for time and stations.

I love to write about trending topics and real life experiences. I love to read and write Science Fiction and Fantasy stories dealing with parallel worlds.

Guns are still an important issue in violence

When I stated, “Media had it’s own version of the truth”. I did not know how right I was. The recent shootings in Minnesota, Louisiana, Dallas, and Chicago all had something in common: It’s blown out of proportion by videos of the violence being posted on social media.

Media’s role

Since Ferguson, discussion is still rampant on the social media channels and television too. This blogger didn’t think those on the panel actually get the picture. With all the articles about race relations in the country, the same thing kept happening in areas with people of color. If a white man shot a black man, insufficient evidence kept them out of jail. If a black man shot a white man, the media would stop short of lynching or crucifying him, because of due process.

Apparently, the news bored some of the reporters. They always showed violent video of African Americans or other people of color getting arrested and posting them on social media, causing a public uproar. Where did all this hate come from? The above didn’t help the powder keg that kept exploding every time this issue came about. If this were black on black violence, like the recent Helen Fletcher murder, not much was done after her boyfriend confessed. This person was someone’s mother, daughter, granddaughter, sister and friend.

Guns:  Abolish the ‘no carry’ rule

Here’s an idea, don’t allow open carry to be nationwide. In addition to the removal of automatic weapons, make those that have the right to carry a gun be held responsible for their actions. Just because someone fits the profile of a violent person didn’t mean they were. As a black woman and disabled at that, it appalled me that the same thing kept happening in poorer or high crime ridden areas of the nation. There needed to be more than just a “panel of talkers”. It is time to take action. Guns didn’t kill people, people with guns kill people. The sad part about the above shooting was that 20 years later, they were still happening after efforts were made to unify the Eastside in Wichita Falls to stop the violence.

No blaming single parents

This was not the place to blame or point fingers at one particular group. Some of my best friends were single parents where the father is not present in the home. My mother always knew what was going on because she chose to stay home with us. Dad knew too. She didn’t want us being latch key children. She didn’t start part time work until I was in junior high. The biggest problem existing in these poorer neighborhoods is a fear or lack of respect for authority. Well, no wonder when social media instigates and aggravates the problem.

Guns and apathy

According to one article, that was the second trigger to the causes of violence, right behind overcrowding and disrespect of someone. Most of these people killed were disrespected in some way by the police. Officers were killed trying to stop this pop off. It went downhill from there, obviously.

Guns and mental instability

This article also pointed out that there is a lack of concern for some of the victims of gun violence. While the Fletcher murder was ruled a homicide, the shooter didn’t believe his victim got injured even though she told him so twice. In the case of all these shootings where ISIS is the culprit, lack of concern became paramount in how they radicalized both in and out of America. Remember the #Paris Attacks? What of Istanbul and Brussels? At least in the cases of the shooting in Oregon, that was a person having a mental problem. The one in Orlando did too. The trigger there are the media also.

Guns: The Author’s view

Thank goodness the only thing this blogger had to deal with was a break-in two weeks ago. The only thing stolen was the power cord to my modem/router combo that allowed me to surf the web on my laptop. The cord fit in their pocket, so the thief, someone attached to the maintenance that had access to the keys in the office, assumed the role to do this in the guise of ‘checking‘ on something in my apartment.

They thought the power cord wouldn’t be missed. IT WAS. My surge protector has a space between my cell phone cord and my desktop computer cords. Thursday morning, there were two. Management knew who was on call that night after the office closed at 5:30. They were the only other people who had my key other than Mom and me. Because a report was issued, with a case number, my lock on the front door was changed, free of charge. This blogger isn’t opposed to using guns with proper training

Until there is unity in Washington on what to do. We can only pray for improvement.

I love to write about trending topics and real life experiences. I love to read and write Science Fiction and Fantasy stories dealing with parallel worlds.

Success: Apps times marketing equal sales

Nothing beats having downloadable apps for a website or blog. The reality being, that this crucial element  secured on-going traffic. Of course, it as easier if these were already mobile friendly, meaning that a site or blog was viewable almost exactly as is on a phone, PC or tablet. What is the goal of marketing? What part did social media play?

The Goal of Marketing  The goal was making viewers of one’s blog want to visit the web site and sign up or buy what one featured. Remember the college economics class about supply and demand? Downloadable ebooks have been always popular, especially when the author can offer some valuable information on how to get something either for free or reduced price for a limited time. Since writing about parallel universes was my favorite, offering the first chapter of my novel, The Long Journey Home, might excite a few readers. It might be better to offer The Eros Chronicles for download too, as a limited release.

The role of Social Media. Social media was a great marketing tool. With the right apps and marketing strategies earning money became easier.One thing my brother taught me is never pay for anything if it was downloaded for free. Even though Facebook purchased WhatsApp a while back, the cost to use the chat service still remained at .99 a year. At least the social media giant was in fourth place behind SnapChat. Here were the Android top five free trending apps for The Google PlayStore:

Messenger (Facebook)

 Slither io

SnapChat

Facebook

T-Mobile Tuesdays

The nicest thing about the top five grossing apps had a few games recognized through on phone ads and tried by me on my smart phone. With only 2GB of space on my phone, these had to be played on my computer. It is easy to become addicted to ad disgusted with some of them, especially Candy Crush Saga, just like Angry Birds. The music was annoying.

Game of War

Mobile Strike

Clash of Clans

Candy Crush Saga

  Clash Royale

As mentioned before, it is fun and profitable to create a free mobile app of one’s own, if the public liked the product. One of my Facebook pages had a mobile app through Como. Normally, this was free for the first 50 downloads, then one paid for it. AppsGeyser is great, but  troubles existed when downloading and monetizing the app. The beauty being that a contest going on through July 31 sponsored by Amazon for the best app. Creating the app was free and could even be downloaded into the Google PlayStore and the Amazon Apps Store. The winner got $70 and a tablet. Images and names had to be free of copyright infringement. Most of the popular competition was gaming apps.

Apps were a great advertising tool. In order for web traffic to flow, one had to entice readers with some sort of free or reduced price download,  It was easy to see that some of the above games did well in the Google Play Store. This blogger recognized some or them through the ads online. A few were even played by me. 

I love to write about trending topics and real life experiences. I love to read and write Science Fiction and Fantasy stories dealing with parallel worlds.

Miss Manners: Right about girl’s graduation party

Miss Manners made the social media feed on Facebook this week. A person graduating from school was thrown a graduation party and “skipped out” on it. Unfortunately, her parents knew their daughter didn’t care for parties and still wanted to have the party. They told her to tell them if this was ok or not, so they could cancel a week before. She agreed to pop in and thank her family and friends for the gifts and for coming. Their daughter’s grandparents, a few relatives and good friends came by and left presents, some were checks.

Not only did she not show up, she sent a text to her father, feigning illness, saying she was not up for a celebration. Of course, the girl’s parents were insulted by their daughter’s rude behavior, as were the guests. The girl, when she did show up was rude to her grandparents and everyone else. She refused to write the notes of apology. Now the parents were wondering, along with the note of regret, whether they should return the presents too.

The only time one should not show up to a party was a family or their:

  1. Injury
  2. Grave illness
  3. Sudden death

What happened to the parents of my generation? Obviously, they were the last to instill a sense of right or wrong in their children. That lesson was either missing here or it was ignored by the daughter. She planned not to show up at the last minute. This said a lot, bad form on the daughter’s part. Something like this would have never happened then. Even at 18, there would have been other punishment.

Not only did this blogger agree with Miss Manners, Judith Martin’s answer, the parents were right to return the gifts along with a note of apology. If anything, she was curt to all that went there to celebrate her milestone of finishing secondary school. Any parent would hit the roof at the way their offspring acted. If the daughter had let them know her wishes a week before, no one would be offended if it were called off the week before. She agreed to pop in and say hello and couldn’t honor even those.

Miss Manners said since she didn’t help with the planning of the party, so she wasn’t to keep her gifts either. If this were me, my offspring would’ve paid for the decorations, the cake and the invitations and thank you notes as well co-sign the letter of apology for her actions to the guests. My mother would have made me write the apology letter and sign it so she could return it with the gifts. No other party would be thrown again ever.

I love to write about trending topics and real life experiences. I love to read and write Science Fiction and Fantasy stories dealing with parallel worlds.